My partner spends way too much time with their ex who is "just a friend"
We have been dating for 8 months. My partner has a close ex they consider a best friend. They meet 2-3 times a week, text daily, and I have met them once briefly. My partner says their friendship predates us and I should trust them. I do trust my partner, but the frequency makes me uncomfortable. I do not want to be controlling but I also do not want to feel like a third wheel.
It's essential to communicate your feelings to your partner in a non-accusatory way. Express your concerns about feeling like a third wheel and the frequency of their interactions with their ex. Use 'I' statements to convey your emotions, such as 'I feel uncomfortable when we don't spend as much time together as we do with your ex.' Avoid blaming or controlling language, like 'You're spending too much time with your ex.' Focus on your feelings and needs. It's also crucial to establish boundaries and discuss what you're both comfortable with. For instance, you could suggest a 'no-ex' day once a week or limit the number of times you meet at their place. Open, honest communication will help you both understand each other's needs and work towards a mutually comfortable dynamic.
